Everything in this life has conditions. As a kid I remember running to the door when I knew my dad was home from work. I was so happy to see him yet the first thing out of my mouth was, ” what did you bring me?” Thinking on this now as an adult or at least an adult sized kid I realize…that’s pretty jacked up.
Love is conditional. It depends on how you feel…how much sleep you got the night before…if you’ve had your coffee…if you’ve eaten recently. It has monthly payments with a really high interest rate. You thought you were pre-approved. What happened?
We each have a love credit rating. It’s that investment of time and trust we have earned by listening and occasionally lying to make friends and significant others feel better about themselves. But of course I would never lie to my beloved friends and family or anyone reading this blog. *wink wink* sorry had something in my eye…must have been that dang sparkle acting up again.
The truth is even those we love can sometimes really tick us off. In fact because we love them, the hurt we receive from them can be so much more significant. In this world we don’t have or understand unconditional love. Its an oddity. A freak show complete with a bearded lady riding a bull. Please don’t call your significant other a bearded lady even if an occasional piece of facial hair can crop up from time to time. This applied to lady readers as well. Guys wouldn’t appreciate being called a bearded lady…even if it is sort of funny.
God had to send His Son. He made the Word of God which created all things into flesh to dwell amongst us. And here is what unconditional love looks like. While we were still sinners, He sacrificed His son.
“But God demonstrates His own love toward us, in that while we were yet sinners, Christ died for us.”
Ro 5:8 NASB
Verse 10 of the same chapter points out that we were even enemies of God when he made the sacrifice of His life for us.God didn’t wait for us to stop making mistakes before loving us.
“For if while we were enemies we were reconciled to God through the death of His Son, much more, having been reconciled, we shall be saved by His life.”
Ro 5:10 NASB
This unconditional love has another term often used to describe it: Grace. Grace means unmeritted favor. I would describe it as unconditional love in action.
This love doesn’t make any sense what so ever. We live on a planet governed by cause and effect. You reap what you sow. You get what you paid for. You make you bed and sleep in it. What goes around comes around. To take an example from my 4 year old, if you eat food while she’s in the room you have to share it. But you didn’t do anything to deserve His love. In all honesty, there isn’t a single thing you or anyone else alive (Chuck Norris included sorry Chuck) could do to be worthy of God’s get-out-of-hell-free-card love. In fact many of us still try to earn it. We hold this belief if we read the bible or do good deeds we will get into heaven. But nope you can’t earn a gift. It was already given. You simply receive. Here’s how:
“that if you confess with your mouth Jesus as Lord, and believe in your heart that God raised Him from the dead, you will be saved;”
Ro 10:9 NASB
There is a cause and effect after all. Jesus loved us unconditionally, based on his example we can love others and extend grace. This love is the cause for tremendous acts of giving and self- sacrifice. The next time you are tempted to give someone what they deserve….just give Grace instead.
Prayer: Lord Jesus, you have shown us what true love should look like. It shouldn’t be dependent on any circumstances. Help us today to love without conditions. In fact, I ask that you would help make it easy for us because right now it’s hard. In Jesus name we pray, Amen.